ENERGETIC CORDS

Contributed by: Ginger Rothhaas, Compassion Fix

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Both of my teenagers traveled to Scotland to act in a play at the International Fringe Festival. It was the opportunity of a lifetime for them, but hard for my husband and I to be away from them for two weeks. They traveled with ten students and two teachers. My teens asked us to stay home because they really wanted to do this on their own to prove to themselves they could travel internationally for two weeks without mom and dad. I got it, but it felt like our whole world was in that airplane over the sea. Everyone did great and came home safely. Likely, you also know the experience of being separated from someone you love.

When we are apart from those we love, it is helpful to remember that there are energetic cords that connect us. Though we were on separate continents, it helped me to imagine an energetic cord connecting me to my children. As a mom, I felt helpless and far away, but I could send them love even though there was an ocean between us.

Your love for another person creates an energetic cord that connects your heart to theirs.

If you are separated from someone you love, try this visualization today. Read through it first and then close your eyes, take a deep breath, and imagine this connection.

Bring your beloved person to mind, see them wherever they may be at this moment. Picture a golden glowing cord extending from your heart. See that cord traveling over land and sea until it connects to your loved one’s heart. Now send the energy of love through that cord—see it flowing from your heart to theirs.

When you feel far away or helpless, this visualization can bring you peace and send a gift of loving energy to the person you love.

An energetic cord exists between any two people who have an emotional connection to one another.

That means that there may be cords no longer serving us. We may need to remove an energetic cord if the relationship is draining our energy. When it feels like a cord is siphoning energy out of you, then it is time to cut that cord.

Here is a visualization you can practice detaching from an energetic cord: Bring to mind the person with whom you wish to release the connection. Imagine a cord connecting the two of you. Picture a pair of scissors cutting through that cord. You might imagine that person now floating away from your life. They are no longer tethered to you. You are free of their energy. Allow them to drift away with gratitude. Repeat this process until it feels like the energy has been released.

You can love someone and cut the energetic cord at the same time. Your love for them remains, but their energy is free of yours. There may be family members or friends who you want in your life, but you need to release the energetic bond between you. After you cut the energetic cord, you will likely notice a more peaceful feeling when you are in their presence. You can be with them, but not drained by them.

This may feel strange to you, but humans have explored this phenomenon for thousands of years. Ancient sacred texts, mindfulness teachings, and re- search in psychology all speak of a feeling of connection to another person beyond explanation. We know this feeling because we have all experienced it. Because it isn’t something we can prove or see, though, our logical minds create doubt and resistance.

Let your senses feel it and give yourself permission to know it is real. You are still connected to anyone who has touched your heart even when they are far away, estranged, or deceased. If someone you love has died, imagine this golden cord connecting your spirits together. This is a peace-giving practice.

You and I have an energetic connection as you read these words. I wrote this message for you and you are reading it. We are connected now through this message and I love thinking about how it bonds our souls.

TRY THIS

Spend time with the visualizations above. It may feel uneasy at first, but keep doing it. Your brain might resist it a bit, but your soul longs for this kind of practice. Imagine energetic cords running all over the Earth to the people we love. You can even send a cord to someone you don’t yet know. Maybe it is a partner you want to bring into your life. Imagine that your heart is sending a cord out to the perfect match for you and visualize the cord connecting to that person. Maybe you want to connect to someone who is hurting. Imagine sending a golden cord from your heart to a mother who just lost a child in another country. Picture your energetic cord traveling across the ocean into the city where she lives and into the hospital or home where she is grieving. Send your love and compassion wherever you feel called to send it. This can be a profound practice of loving kindness—for you and them.

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Ginger Rothhaas, MBA, MDiv. is a seminary trained compassion coach who teaches about compassion at the intersection of neuroscience and spirituality. She is the founder of Compassion Fix Coaching, and she has written a book of mental health practices titled Being Human: 150 Practices to Make it Easier. She lives in Kansas City with her husband, their two teenage children, and two very enthusiastic dogs.

You can find Ginger at:

Websites: gingerrothhaas.com, compassionfix.com

Facebook and Instagram: @gingerrothhaas and @compassionfix

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